Scales of Life

Hello Loves,

 It's been a few days but then there is life! I know everyone has had days when they just don't feel like doing anything and end up having to do a bit of everything. Having a life, career, child, and even a significant other can cause extra running around when you have one of those 'I wanna rest all day, days'. I brought this up because everyday will not be bright and sunny and full of happy. I thought that once I have my Baby Love, all the days we would spend together would be rainbows and glitter poo. I thought that because I am so in love with my man and he is so in love with me that everyday would be romance and endless laughter. I was in complete shock the first time I felt like my Baby Love was actually getting on my nerves. I could not imagine myself not wanting to look at the person I love even more each day that is only in my life because I love them being there. This started an epiphany but not really. It was kind of like a memory that I relived and needed to at that moment to help me reach the new information that I have discovered inside myself.
 Loving another person does not mean you stop loving yourself. It means you have given yourself permission to love yourself even harder. Keeping a relationship fresh and fun is great but making sure that you are the best you all the time, in or out of a relationship, starts with the relationship you have with yourself. I had a hard time loving myself and choose to love others more to compensate for this. THIS WILL NOT WORK! Others know or will find out that you are pretending. They will become users. Not intentionally all the time, but once the secret is out, it can go two ways. The first way is they will use you! The second is they will ask you or help you find out why you don't love yourself. It could be because of a number of things but a true friend will help or ask, while a user will do just that; use you!
My life as well as everyone living, will be full of ups, downs, good relationships and horrible relationships, but the key to having love and returning love is to first love the relationship you have with yourself! Pick your battles and always be your biggest fan, regardless if you are the career focused individual, parent, and or the spouse. Live is balance and the scale should stay in your favor. Til next time Loves!!